First dates are tricky and awkward for those who are new to the dating scene, especially if you are shy and not too good with words.  A Dance Date offers you some tips and dos & don'ts for first dates...


Be yourself.

A date is a time for you to get to know one another, first as friends and maybe more later on.  Be yourself, but be on your best behavior.  A first date is just like lunch with new friends, colleagues and acquaintances; showcase the best of your personality and character, do not admit all your flaws and insecurities or lament about the absence of your love-life.

Be a good listener.

Getting to know one another involves finding out what your date likes and dislikes. Ask questions and give your date the opportunity to tell you more about him/her.  By doing that, you give him/her the chance to expound stories about his/her life.  You also get to know what excites him/her and what he/she likes or dislikes.  Laugh at the jokes your date tells you, ask questions, maintain eye contact and stay engaged in the conversation.

Have fun.

The purpose of a date is to hangout and meet a new friend, so relax and enjoy yourself.  It's just a date.


Pretend to be someone you’re not.

You want to be truthful about who you are and not pretend to be someone else just to impress your date.  Be sincere about yourself, even if you're into country music and he's into rock.  Differences in lifestyle and opinions can be refreshing and can even make good conversation!

Make an immediate judgment; first impressions aren't always the most accurate.

Give each other the benefit of the doubt and get to know each other better before making a judgement.  Most people tend to be nervous on the first date, so give some time to get to know each other better before writing off what may be potentially the love of your life.

Complain about the ex.

We go on a date to get to know each other better, not to compare notes about how badly the ex treated us.  No body enjoys hearing complains about previous failed relationships, or even unreasonable bosses.  So don't spend your first date complaining.  Don't reveal too much about yourself either, or there won't be more to find out on the second date!


The most important dating tip is to date safely.  Don't take unecessary risks, keep to public places and always make sure a friend knows you are going out on a first date and its location, just in case.  It is a safe practice to call or sms your friend to 'check in' to ensure your safety.